Being on a life-transforming journey sounds very exciting.
In reality, the path is long and challenging and most people are not equipped with the right tools to succeed.
It is pretty standard for people to want to change their lives and always find reasons not to.
Perhaps it’s not the right time, or they’re not surrounded by the right people to help them move forward.
These are all just excuses.
It seems like we’re waiting for something or someone to come take our hand and drag us down the path.
Have you ever wondered why is it like that for most people?
Why wait until the circumstances in our life are unbearable to attempt to change them?
I have noticed that the most successful people we look up to have hit rock bottom at some point in their lives.
They have been at their lowest and that made them so determined never to go back there again.
This event in their lives gave them the strength to push themselves hard to the top.
However, the average group of people lives somewhere in the middle.
I consider myself to be part of that group (not that I consider myself or any of you “average” because we are all unique, and we believe in growing.)
I mean that I haven’t been to “my” rock bottom, and my lifestyle is acceptable to me.
Pay attention to the word “acceptable.”
I’ve accepted it because it’s not that bad.
Think about it, I have my basic needs met. I have a roof over my head, food in my plate, clean water to drink.
I also have the distractions everyone has – Netflix, social media, TV, and other things designed to keep us away from the best versions of ourselves.
But is this what I ultimately want for myself and my family? Not really. No!
How do we overcome being comfortable?
I know, deep in my heart, that I can make my life so much better.
It’s just a matter of making it happen and pushing through and having the discipline to take the necessary steps.
But why does it seem so difficult to follow our dreams?
Because it is.
If it was easy, everyone was going to live their dream life.
But we all know that the path ahead will be complicated and thorny. Many of us have very low confidence and self-esteem and are constantly doubting our capabilities.
This inevitably leads to signing up for an average life because we feel comfortable enough with mediocrity.
But not uncomfortable enough to find the strength to believe we can change our circumstances.
So how can we change that? By making an effort to change our mindset despite our environment.
Have you ever felt like you have all these things that you want to do but have one big enemy – your environment?
Many of you here will be going through building a career and a new personality along with that.
From scratch.
And whoever hasn’t done it knows nothing about the challenges one has to overcome. I have been there.
And to a certain point, I’m still there now because I’m not even close to reaching my end goals.
And to change your life, you may need to change your mindset and become the best version of yourself.
Change can be painful, though.
You may have realized that to change your life, you need to change certain habits, aspects of your daily life, and sometimes crucial parts of your character.)
Can we change our mindset?
Some people may not realize how important mindset is in our lives. But we’re here to be enlightened and draw our attention to our authentic selves.
What is mindset?
In its most broad definition, the mindset is whether a person believes that their talents and intelligence are given and not being able to change (fixed), or they are traits that can be developed further (growth).
It is formed from childhood, and it depends on how a person was raised, their parents, the life examples in their environment.
And if you have one type or the other, would you be able to change it?
Yes, you can change your mindset.
A positive direction would be to change your fixed mindset to become a growth mindset. Having a growth mindset will help you enjoy learning, developing your skills and knowledge in the desired direction for your purposes.
In other words, it will help you transform yourself and your life.
If you don’t like your current situation and lifestyle and want to change them, you’ll have to change yourself positively.
The change I’m talking to you about is about growing you as a person.
It’s about developing the knowledge and skills you need to possess to change your lifestyle and way of thinking.
How to make your environment supportive of your goals?
When I talk about the environment, I mean your surroundings, the people you interact with daily, and the energy around you.
First of all, think about the physical part of your environment – your home and working space.
It is proven that occasional decluttering can feel energizing and stress-releasing.
When I clean and organize the space around me, it usually feels like I make room for fresh new things in my mind and my life.
I’m not saying you should obsess over it (I’m not a big fan of extreme measures.)
Once you do that, think about what other things can make you feel good and productive. Maybe something like candles, or wall art with inspiring quotes, your vision board (link), a welcoming desk and chair, or anything else that you think will make a difference in the way you feel about your environment and make you feel more productive.
Also, I find it helpful to open a window and let fresh air into the room I’m in. It feels very refreshing and renews the energy.
According to the things that matter to you the most, the only rule is to make your surroundings as enjoyable as possible.
The second thing about your environment that is less controllable is the people around you. You may be lucky enough to be surrounded by people you interact well with, think alike, and have fun with.
That’s not always the case, though.
Whoever it is in your environment, they may make you feel frustrated, anxious, even tired sometimes, and overall, you may not be enjoying their company at all times.
It can be your work colleagues or the situation at home.
Not letting your environment influence your mindset means that you’ll have to learn to accept and change your negative emotions once you recognize them.
It means you’ll have to become the bigger person in every situation.
I know it can be challenging, but once you learn to be led by the idea and emotions of the future and not the past and the present, it will become easier to let things go.
If you are serious about growing to that level and transforming your life, I recommend you start by getting to know Dr. Joe Dispenza and his work.
His book Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself was the most significant eye-opener in my adult life.
I wouldn’t stop recommending to everyone to read his books, listen to him on YouTube, podcasts, meditations.
He talks about one thing that seems to be discussed left and right in recent years – the power of thought and how we think influences our lives.
He will give you all the answers you have ever looked for on the topic – with complete scientific evidence and explanations for even the most skeptical ones of you.
And most importantly, he will give you the “How”- how to apply all that into your life so you can become a new person.
Thirdly, improving the energy around you should flow naturally after following steps 1 and 2.
Including daily spiritual practices like meditation, expressing gratitude, and focusing on the positive things in your life will also elevate your energy and make you happier.
We are all different in the way we approach our goals.
Some of us may need a bit more outside assistance to be more confident and productive.
If you recognize yourself here, it’s a good idea to have your mindset and environment support each other.
Make an effort to create healthy habits that will grow you as a person.
You will start feeling incredible, more productive, and goal-oriented.
